No Grit, No Pearl
Born and raised in Kentucky by my southern Baptist parents. I was lavished with love and a big dose of biblical principles that kept me out of too much trouble. This upbringing kept my guilt level at 100%. Nothing my therapist can’t help me fix. I'm married and have a pretty 14 year old daughter and a handsome 13 year old son. We live in suburbia with our dog who pees when the doorbell rings. You should probably also know I’m a horrible person. In fact, if I don’t keep myself in check I can easily fall into being self-absorbed by stressing over every calorie and counting every minute of exercise then whining over how fat I look in knit tops. When I was about 8 years old I stole $3 from my friend’s piggy bank while I was visiting her house. Many years later I admitted it to her and she forgave me while laughing, but it still counts. In addition to being a vain thief I’ve also lied, cheated, drank too much, been ungrateful, manipulated, been judgmental and held grudges. I’ve followed the crowd. When they jumped off bridges so did I. In general, being a rotten person is not a hard job for me as you might assume by now. I’d like to think I’ve gained some wisdom from all this. Sort of odd how one can gain clarity in life only after those bad decisions and learning the hard way. No grit, no pearl kind of thing I suppose. I’ll tell you what I know.
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molly hoeppner
Thanks for the bio.
Linda
Amanda,
I just read your piece on unfriending your daughter . As the mother of 3 daughters , I so related to you. My girls are now 28, 32, 36 ! Iam so happy we stuck to our beliefs and values
Susan Logan
You are beautiful inside and out. Love you! XXOO
Nedra Buckman
Still love ya. I know you are a very kind and caring person-a great mom
Tonya
You are amazing !
Eleadra
I love and miss you, Amanda!
Patricia
This hit home not only for mother daughter but for son also. We all go through this but I could never put it all so well.
Sandee
I love your down to earth observations . You speak what every mother feels
SANDY
DO U HAVE ONE FOR A SON?
Amanda Waggener
Posting one about my son today! Follow my Facebook page, "No Grit No Pearl" for updates.
Tina
Love your blog!
Cheryl
Please add me to your list. I love to read them that my friend forwards.
Amanda Waggener
Follow me on my FB page "No Grit No Pearl" for future posts! Thanks for reading Cheryl.
Gerry Blumberg
Please add me.
Nancy Maynard
Please add me to your e-mail list .
Ray
Please add me to your email list.
Kathy
Great stuff! I'm the General Manager of beingamom.life and would love to re-publish this & share with our 750,000 Facebook fans (facebook.com/fansofbeingamom).
Amanda Waggener
Kathy, please email me at Amanda.w@live.com and we can discuss. Thanks!
Rae Lynn Duffy
I want to thank you for your Unfriended letter. My 20 year old daughter sent it to me in a text today and said she thought of me when she read it. She is now a junior in college.
gini
Good for you..She will thank you eventually.
That may take a long time..but it is better than the easy way where she never grows up and is still behaving like a 14 yr old at 35.
Jenny Rapson
Hi Amanda! I am the editor of ForEveryMom.com & I would love to re-publish "Unfriended" on our site with full credit to you as author. Can you email me so we can discuss? jrapson@outreach.com. Thanks!
Deni Sutherland
Boys are way easier....
Beth
Amen!!
Barbara
One, huge, question? I absolutely love Unfriended, but desperately need it for my 14 year old SON. I don't suppose you have any sons where you could pen much of those similar thoughts?
Ad Huffman
Great
Judy Jennings
I think you are fabulous
Angie
This is so good. I remember telling my daughter this very thing. And now, she is posting your blog on her facebook page as she tackles raising a 4 going on 14 girl herself. Moms unite!
Sherri
This is awesome told my daughter the same thing. Know we are best friends and she gets it👍🏻
A former hell teenager who is very successful now
Give your kid a goddamned break. Being 14 in today's day and age is tough. Give her some space to figure it out. Don't just give up on her, we all need to make our own experiences. It will be all good
Jerry
She isn't giving up on her daughter you foul mouthed ass. She is letting her know the difference between mother and friend. She needs a mother right now more than a friend.
Stephanee
Ms Waggener, you are spot right on; parents do their kids a huge disservice, trying to be friends.
Maya Harrison
Hi. Love the title "No Grit,No Pearl" If you need advice on career, teen parenting: corporateconsultant4executives@gmail.com Author of the forthcoming book, "How To Transform Childlike Adults"
Kerry
AWESOME post! My strong willed daughter is now almost 25, married, and my very best friend. You'll get there, too! (Faster than you know!)
Miranda
As the mom of a precious strong willed four year old daughter, your Unfriended blog post today hit home, I see my future in it! Your bio is great too, I think you are probably my soul mate
Maureen
You truly covered the characteristics of adolescence. As a career high school teacher and administrator, I can tell you it will get better. Thank you for being the "active" parent and mom.
Tania
Great articles thanks
Mariam
I love your Unfriended blog. This will help many parents who are faced with this monumental task of being parents not friends. Well done!
Wanda
There is the other side of the teens, I promise, and you will have a great friend. My daughter is 23 and the article sounds like her!! We are friends and I love it now!!!
Kerry
Absolutely love the Unfriended blog. I have a 14 year old daughter and every word of that was true. Thanks for giving me a good laugh today!
Andrea
We are created in His image, but as it shows in the bible... We all fall short in some shape or form. The good thing He still loves us. Owning our mistakes and flaws is not always easy, but freeing!😘
Amy Simpson
Great stuff.
Mark
) Thank you Amanda for this and your other shadows that are evaporated as you shine God's light upon them. Blessed by your writings.
Meg Farmer
Good stuff there, Amanda. You are going to put your therapist out if a job as you graduate and pass it in. Double whammy!
brenda
This is Great Mandy
Sandy Ruppel Hatton
This is great! Love it!
mary
You always humor me, and I hope I can grow with you..I am along for the ride.
Teresia Husk
Proud of you, baby girl!
Dawn Bowman
Love your honesty. Looking forward to your next update!
Fran
Awesome blog...can't wait to read more.
Amy Simpson
Love this.
Amanda
Thanks so much everyone for all the encouraging words!
Jen P
Tell it how it is girl!
Jerry Waggener
I think I'll stick around for a while. You make for interesting reading. And like you I "quit" my real job February 29, 1984. I'm really anxious to view the family Tree when you are finished.
Shannon Moore
Love love love your personality, always have! You totally should write a book! It would be the number one best selling novel! Way to go! Can't wait for more!
Joey Davenport
That was great!
Missy P
Love it! Looking forward to more! :)
Steve
I hate Siri. "If the rest are this good"
Steve Treece
If the rest of my day is good. I think you're going to get a lot of readers.. One at least.
Tabatha W.
Can't wait I read more! I'm sure I can relate to a lot of what you have to say. :)
Tracy Martin
Very relatable... Excited to see what is to come from No Grit, No Pearl! Miss you lovely KY ladies!
Carrie B.
I am so excited to be following you! I AM mad you haven't called me to tell me you QUIT! I also LOVE your saying...No grit, no pearl. Never heard it before but I'm totally adopting it! Love you!
Crystal
Thanks for sharing! Love this my beautiful friend! I see another one of your creativities is writing! Great job!
Kelly Brocato
You have always had a way with words! Look forward to reading more. Love you!
Chandra bertolini
Love it Amanda!!
Laquita
You are a beautiful and amazing woman inside and out. We all have flaws. Isn't it great that God doesn't hold them against us? I'm excited that you are writing this blog! Good luck!
Lora Lee Floyd
Congratulations on the domestic engineer!! I love my job but that makes me a jealous person. I'm looking forward to more.
Taylor Tompkins
I think this is cool also! Takes courage to put yourself out there. Way to go!
Josh
So proud of you for finally taking the plunge! I love you and your creative writing ability.