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Amazing! Keep it up!

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I couldn't have said it better myself! Even down to her brother. We call being hungry/angry- hangry! And I'm sure she inherited that trait from me! Love this! Perfectly said!👍🏼🙄

Wow, although I don't yet have any teenage children this touched close to home. I love it. I have bookmarked this for later reading. Thanks for sharing. 💜💜

Amen! Give it to God and Don't Take it Back. Pray, Pray, Pray! It's the only thing that will get you through these Mother- Daughter conflicts. My Girls are now thirty one and teeny seven. Praying!

wow...

You a bird, and your daughters a bird. Real parents don't listen to there kids. They make there kids listen to them. You new parents get stepped on to much. Your daughter your bff. Your a fucking idio

This made me smile. My daughter is married now as of October but I promise this was "our" story and the adult she has become is remarkable. I couldn't be prouder. I remember all of this so well.

It sounds like my 17 yr old grandaughter who thinks she rules the world. And you are right they feel its about them all the time... Be strong tuff love ...you gonna be there for her regardless ....

Be careful what you wish for because one day you will be called on to babysit her children!!

Amen, Mom you are a great mother. I had the same problem with my girls. Now, my oldest is a mother herself. She tells me all the time thank you mom, I love you so much. Just put it in Gods hands ,.

And so it never changes through generations.I do however worry about my beautiful grandaughters handsome grandsons. That they will not be pulled into the wrong choices,this scary world can be perilous

Beautiful determination but I wonder -- why are teens allowed to roll their eyes at their parents and mutter under their breath? I was never permitted to be so disrespectful. (I'm 35)

Beautiful articl and very well written. Stay strong Mom! That's what I keep telling myself these days. :)

Very well said . Wow You are the greatest Of all Moms God Bless both of you

Chris Fugal A Ioving Father , Grand Father and Great Grand Father

Best Mother to Daughter letter

Heidi, that made me teary. Your mom would be proud. I've been through it and my daughters and I are now great friends. You're doing great!

This is exactly how I feel with my daughters! Thanks for putting it on paper!

Very well said..i salute you! I can so relate.i have 3 girls,a college,a high school and a middle school.3 different personalities,you can just imagine my everyday life.. they are my life...

You obviously have been watching me and my daughter for the past decade as you have exactly described our relationship. Thank you for comforting me by letting me know I'm not alone!

How wonderfully you have pen down your feelings. I totally relate me and my daughter relationship and can understand you very well. I read at the point when I felt I was the only one who is suffering

I am writing as a dad; we raised a daughter and are now raising a granddaughter. We are here to teach, to guide, to try to instill in them strength..friends don't usually do that!

It started s a toddler....none of this behavior is cute in the article or something to be proud of

Perfectly said and felt every mother goes thru all of this thankyou for writing it so perfectly

No Mom , No pass. I don't hear you taking any responsibility for your situation . You have it all being her . Yes , teenage raising can be tough, so what . Remember, there's no one out there just U.

This goes for boys too.. Except it seems to hit about the time they enter middle school and start listening to their friends. Good call Mom

I wish I had the courage to write something like this to my daughter when she was 14..now almost 18 & still acts like this describes..only worse..BUT I keep on parenting & waiting to be friends oneday

This was awesome...sharing with my teen daughter!

AM - thanks for your comment. Negative comments are not normally deleted as I love hearing all viewpoints, but Gary's comment was rude & insensitive to others aside from myself & thus was deleted.

Gary..maybe kids who commit suicide over stuff stuff like this are like you. Very over dramatic with no sense of humor.. come on... it's a funny but true story...

LOVE LOVE LOVE this!

Well written and so true and I pray to for child to be born just like her !!

Exactly.

Perfect article. I swear my mom wrote this lol and now I do have that daughter she wished on me..... Let's just say this article exactly fits my thoughts now too.

If that is your daughter in the photo, she's lovely =)

Great article but seriously - you respond to a yell to come curl hair? Where is the respect in that? 14 is old enough to curl her own hair and iron her own shirt and be responsible to remember forms

We would never have made it through the mood swings without Ibuprophen.

It will get better....keep doing what you're doing, Mom! I've been there and done that!

I am afraid of & whom ever sent this as unknown. If this is to be seen by your daughter do you think she will respond?From a Mom with a troubled daughter.TRY TALKING TO HER face 2 face.

Great job, MOM!

Ohmygosh this is so spot on! Keep it up, Mom!

Love this!!! Wonderful
Writing! Thank you for sharing!

And then drugs enter their lives. And all reason goes out the window.

I raised four daughters and yes everything you said and more I experienced they are all grown now and one has a 15 year old daughter so she will call me and say how did you do it with four

Please email the letter if you don't mind

Wow amazing!!!! I have a 15yr old and I couldn't have written it better myself , it's literally the same things I experience myself, I tell her I'm not here to be her friend, I'm here to be her MOTHER

I love this. I have a 15 year old step daughter that is MY daughter. I hope she sees the REAL mom was the one who gave her rules & standards & concequences. Not who always gave in & what she wanted.

This hit hard. We have been having trouble with our 22 year old. She had been dormant for a while and erupted recently. Thanks for this letter. It really helped!

True. But i never gsve up trying. I have 10 kids 7 are grown and moved away. Now im dealing with another 14yr old in a cople of yrs ill have 2 more teens. But its okay i wouldnt have it any otherway.

This rings so true! Well written!

Omg!! Priceless!!! Love, love it.

So much truth, we can't be their friends during those days, but thankfully it doesn't last forever. I'm enjoying the evolution of my relationship with my daughter, who is a college senior.

Oh my goodness. You nailed it. I enjoyed every word - We have one daughter out of 6 boys. She is the second youngest so yes she has 5 older brothers - stories I could tell. Can you email me this

I could have written this to my girls ages 31 a 18 now. The oldest has 2 girls now so I will be forwarding this on. Thank God we are friends now as well as being her mom.

Loved it

printed and took home to daughter. we laughed at the similarities of our experiences. Thanks!

You hit the nail on the head Amanda. Thank you for writing and making all of us moms of teenagers know we're not alone. Prayers to those going through really difficult times. Moms unite!

I laughed so hard through this and then I cried when I finished it:) Though you speak of your 14 year old it is me and my 17 year old to a T:) How touching & inspiring! Thank you!

Yes we love our children b try to help them any age but than u realize u already done that but here I go rasing her again it's nice at first cause she's your only child but u realize she's grown but

My mom emailed this to me. It hurts my heart, but I understand.

I feel like I was reading my own thoughts!! My daughter is only 12 and we are starting this already. I honestly get sick of hearing myself talk some days. Thank you for sharing

I have 2 girls, now 25 & 23. I made it through the fire & can now watch from the other side & laugh. But with my 23-yr-old especially, how I wish I'd had this to read! Keep your sense of humor!

This is my world and to realize you're not alone is very comforting. Absolutely amazing spot on post!

I get the message here, but stop curling her hair and ironing her shirt teach her how money works, she should be working at some level learning real life, it would humble her a bit & where is dad?

you have made me feel less alone today. bless you.

To the Author,
I feel like I could have written this myself except I have a 14 year old son.
I can spot a parent of a sweet little toddle a mile away, because she is still hopeful, like I was.

Loved this! And sooooo true. You had me laughing and nodding yes throughout the article. I've shared with many friends and we all agree. Love my daughters but there were times, lol!

Good for you, Karen! Despite what many people say, things don't need to be either/or. I know many parents who are, also, friends to their children. Both the parents and the kids are lovely people.

Ass kickingly accurate

I am a teenager and I am 17 . From the age 13-17 I have learned my mother is the best resource to go to. Sometimes she also reminds me I am your mother remember that.

This is absolutely beautiful. My mother and closest friend forever! Boy am I glad she realized as you have that I needed a mom not a friend so i could become the kind of woman she wanted as a friend.

I have boys ❤️ but totally loved it - as a daughter I thought it was perfect. And I say to Karen - you are clueless 😳

I am great friends with my kids, now 32 and 37. When they were kids though, it was time for me to mother and mentor them in love, not be their buddy.

Dear All - I am actually a mom, age 46, with 5 kids. All of them are, indeed, my friends. None of them are my peers. I wish you all the best.

I often say I am not my daughters' friend now so I can help them grow into the kinds of women I want to be friends with later.

Sending this to my now almost 27 year old daughter and mother of a sixteen month old little girl. :)

This is just horrible. But, I'm sure I wouldn't want to be your friend anyway, so maybe you just gave your poor daughter a blessing in disguise.

OMG!! You are living my life of the past 3 yrs!!! My daughter is 16 and this started at 13. But led to mental health hospitalizations. It can turn into anything. We are still struggling horribly

Great article. I have been telling my friends this forever!

Spot on!

Love the unfriended blog!! You hit the nail on the head........